However, for men looking to woo their wives, Here are some real ways to do just that without breaking the bank for an amazing gift or Tiffany product! The regular wives anywhere will happily agree they crave the essential courtship flavor recreated through small, thoughtful ways.
If yours was a love marriage, re-create the magic of your first date if that went well or the best elements from it. You can even organize a date around the funny, awkward moments you can now look back and laugh at e.g. popcorn spills at the multiplex, goofy friends at the next café booth, a charms-on-a-chain bracelet to signify she's your “angel “ or heartsease!
Those in an arranged marriage can experience the headiness of setting up a faux blind date. Pick a location you know she likes (ask her best friend or listen when she reminisces while looking at old photos) and arrange to meet there. Try new topics of conversation, swap notes of your personal 20 favorites (songs, books, films, friends, philosophy, childhood memory, holiday spot, gift received etc.) or take the easy option of filling up Slam Books; relive being teens again, especially if you didn't do this at school!
End the day by sipping a sundowner and filing away the little things you didn't know or couldn't remember about each other, which the day's shared activities made you aware of, in your mind and heart!
Ignite the spark of the early days of your marriage once again by shooing the kids away to the best possible babysitting options you have and choose to do anti-aging activities together that will get the blood pumping. Try signing up for a couple's membership at the gym so you shape up and get close too. Or use those tennis/swimming/back to college lessons to bond together outside the bedroom so you become friends and lovers.
Alternately, plan a pleasure trip over the weekend after organizing suitable caregivers for the kids (Grandparents and family friends are better bets than the most well-meaning bachelor buddies coz, um...they'd know that Pringles and Pizzas with tri-colored veggie toppings aren't really balanced meals for one!) that is exotic enough to qualify as a snuggle spot!
Use the trip as a second honeymoon opportunity - use the hotel's spa facilities, splurge a little on the Jacuzzi-attached room or order breakfast in bed (if possible, sneak the room attendant a musical card, Godiva chocolates and any trinket you think would tickle her naughty bone, asking him to bring these up with the breakfast tray) to woo her once again!
Give your marriage a makeover and make it the stuff fairytales are made of or the kind contained in those books she can't seem to get her nose out of!
Do things you haven't ever done: Dial the local radio station or TV music channel to dedicate a song to your wife on a station she listens to or tune that guitar and play her a song that depicts her best qualities or how you feel about her. Alternately, rev up that bike and go for a long ride or spray her a heart on your bathroom mirror with shaving foam!
Bring her a freebie - recommended for all those hubbies whose wives are more impressed when they actually shop sensibly for them instead of just buying the first likely matching product on the given list so they can run right back for that crucial couch-potato act of theirs!
Go places men don't usually go with their wives (though we really can't guarantee she'd appreciate the pole-dancer's finer assets or share your Bud's enthusiasm for trying to out-do your beer 'bottoms up' level during Happy Hours at your favorite pub!) and let her feel she's fun enough to be a part of your secret fantasy life: alcoholic fizz, fatty snacks and loud music with meaningless conversation!
Reduce the shock value of the above suggestion by introducing an element of class - take wifey to the new Lounge Bar in town!
Want another alternative? Check out the child-friendly super mall where you can let your hair down and not have to worry about the kids. (Leave the heavy duty credit cards behind if you're worried about getting carried away and stick to window shopping for once - most wives will love even that as long as you don't elbow them to hurry along if they're not buying!)
Get the caricature artist there to sketch pictures of the two of you licking waffle cones or funny-flavored pop-corn you'll both think was a bad bet.
Yes, we admit - Neither idea is sophisticated enough to get her into the sack with you, but since that's already been accomplished (we hope?), the laughs shared on such a day should guarantee she's hooked to the fun side of you, preferably for life!
Act like you're seeing her for the first time during your next group get-together! Look often and deep into her eyes. Smile that little smile that gets her wondering whether she's got something between her front teeth or you're just trying out for Anil Kapoor's role as Prem Pratap Patialaywala in Woh Saat Din you remember that Indian film) as you raise that eyebrow crooked enough to keep her wondering!
Then be it a family dinner, colony meal, common car pool day or a friend's wedding, surprise your wife with a spark of romantic chivalry using the convenience of video mobile technology! Target a handy 'good friend' / relative's phone and call them on it, requesting the person to tell your wife it's a call for her. When she answers the phone, give enough time to register confusion and click a series of pictures on your video cell phone - as her bewilderment bursts into a smile - when she discovers it's you on the other end whispering those three little words!
Commit your wife's full-bright face on hearing your semi-public affirmation to print! Your local photo studio will competently provide you with quality hard copies for you to sign, frame and place in your special nook at the home/office for a forever-fun married moment memory!
Don't settle into the same, old, boring pattern of Sundays that blend into Mondays! Keep the romance alive in your marriage by refusing to be satisfied with a mediocre, even unhappy "arrangement" and do things that you can sincerely tag your wife a charming damsel !
If she's the kinds to enjoy a long, leisurely walk on the beach don't waste time and just do it! Take her out for walk in the rain, paddle boating in the winter or simply a good old fashioned walk in the park. It works!
Invite her favorite family members (please remember to keep it to 'favorites' only or this trick will get your goose cooked well and good) or gal-pals over for dinner when you are ready to put forward a surprise declaration of your devotion!
Persuade each guest to hold up a placard or a colored balloon with one word from your message (e.g. You're my blue Italian sky / Thank you for being mine / I love you best by candlelight) in a darkened room lit only by a romatic, floating candles and enjoy the 'aww' moment!
Break away from the predictable you! Let her know the full onslaught of your hitherto hidden talents for spontaneity and allow her to experience the lost passion (or even unawakened) in your marriage so your marriage feels fresh, new and young-hearted besides being thrilling for your wife!
Send her a coffee mug with a mushy quote at work, ask about her day and actually listen to her while you gently rub her shoulders or just stop doing things that are borderline obligatory.
Adopt ways to let your wife feel appreciated, loved and cherished!
This doesn't have to mean grandiose gestures like hiring a limo or spending big bucks to sky-write a message for her over her office (though if it can be done without rocking the EMI for your flat, car and annual holiday, I would say go for it!), but making yourself available for doing the laundry or springing for a package deal at her favorite salon so she feels pampered and still hot enough to wow you into doing this for her!
Or else, you can always leave your wife sexy notes around the house to induce some playful passion into your relationship so she reacts with a giggle and the day ends with a warm, fuzzy feeling for both of you.
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